Hosting a Safe Playdate: Tips for Parents Whose Children Have Friends with Food Allergies


Posted 12.21.10 | Mallory West

For a parent who is not familiar with food allergies, having a food allergic child over to play may seem intimidating. This blog is intended for parents whose children do not have food allergies who would like to know more about food allergies in order to safely host a food-allergic playmate.

Meals and Snacks

Obviously meals and snacks are the most critical times to be vigilant when you are caring for a child with food allergies. Follow these steps to keep your guest safe.

  • Prior to the play date, arrange for the child’s parents to pack enough safe foods for the time they will spend at your house. Let them know if you plan to have a certain food so that they can provide an allergy-free alternative for their child and nobody feels left out. The most important thing is to only give the child the food that their parents provided. Food allergens are often hidden ingredients and it takes a lot of time and practice to master the art of reading food labels and detecting potential allergens. Never assume a food is safe.
  • Make sure to clean the surface of the kitchen or table to remove any food protein residue from earlier meals. Soaps and commercial cleansing agents work well on counter tops, but dishwashing liquid is not enough.
  • Be sure to wash your hands before and between handling foods. It’s important to remind the kids to wash their hands before eating as well. Use soap and water; hand-sanitizers will not get rid of food protein residues.
  • When preparing food for the kiddos, be careful to avoid cross contact, where the proteins from one food mix in with another food. Even a tiny amount is enough to cause an allergic reaction in some people. To avoid it, use separate utensils when preparing food for the kids (or yourself).
  • For the younger children, be sure to monitor the kiddos during meal or snack time and explain that it’s not safe for them to share or trade foods.

Airborne Allergens

Most children’s allergic reactions occur from actually eating the food that they are allergic to so as long as you keep the kid’s foods separate, you don’t need to worry about what your family eats around them. However, some kids have airborne allergens where they can have an allergic reaction by just being near the allergen. For example, you’ve probably heard of the “peanut-free” schools or lunch tables which are intended to protect children with peanut allergies who can react by just being around other kids eating foods with peanuts. You’ll need to use extra caution with these kiddos and be sure to not have any foods containing that allergen while the child is around.

Arts and Crafts

It’s important to note that food allergens can be triggered by non-food items too. For example, Play-Doh and most stickers are not safe for a child with a wheat allergy. For more information on allergens hidden in non-food items, refer to Christine’s blog post, from earlier this year.

Emergency Plan

No matter how careful you are, it’s still important to know the signs and symptoms of an allergic reaction just in case exposure occurs. Symptoms typically appear within minutes to two hours after a child is exposed. If you suspect an allergic reaction has occurred, call the child’s parents immediately. If the child is having a serious allergic reaction and having trouble breathing, call 911 first, then call the parents.

Some allergic children experience anaphylaxis, a severe allergic reaction that progresses rapidly and can lead to death. These kids are usually prescribed an automatic epinephrine injector (aka an “Epi-Pen”), which must be kept with them at all times. It’s up to the child’s parents to notify you if their child carries one and explain to you how to use it just in case of an emergency. FAAN provides some online videos that demonstrate how to properly use an epinephrine auto-injector, which may help you feel more comfortable using one yourself.

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